isn't it uncanny when the wishes of parents run contrary to their own wishes? (confusing wording of the sentence i would say :P ) or put in a better way, their hopes of seeing their children happy might instead restrict their vision to what 'they' think of as good for their children.
i will give you an illustration. Parent A wants his son to stay at home and manage the family business, he looks forward to being able to guide his son. There's a catch however-
Situation 1:
Let's say the son wants nothing to do with the family business (as of now) and wants to explore some options (conveniently nontraditional options). Now the parents want to see him happy and not make mistakes which he might regret, but hey, if the guy does not 'make' the mistake, won't he keep thinking HIS ENTIRE LIFE about what could have been? The point is that once he has started thinking for himself, he will be having desires, a liking for the uncharted territory. Do you give him the chance?
Situation 2:
To pre-empt the above situation, this time the parents do not give the son exposure to the world outside, keeping him 'domesticated'. Ok the son will be happy, but is it not a trade-off of the potential he had and the knowledge he could have gained outside? More importantly, are the parents keeping their son happy or are they keeping themselves happy?
Their can be no conclusion from this thought but 'freedom'. Never has a cage kept a bird happy. No amount of good food, tender loving care, will be enough to satisfy his curiosity of the world outside. No amount of reasoning that there are predators outside will quell his want for an opportunity to venture outside JUST THIS ONCE.
You have to let go, for his own good.
January 07, 2007
The Past and the Future
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Very true again. Parents do want their children to come and settle down with them this is because ...I should say they always consider their son to be immature and don't expect them to be immune to the system outside in the society. They are afraid and scared. They want them for themselves and I think their lack of confidence in us that we can fight the world is what scares us too.
They need to change or we need to be immune to their mentality so that our future generation don't question themselves about their ability.
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